Regardless of the situation, I believe each person we date
brings a lesson into our lives. Maybe that’s the trick though; we believe what
we wish to believe. If someone cheats on us, maybe we suggest it taught us how
to be strong. If a relationship simply does not work out, maybe we suggest is
taught us to look out for something better.
But what if we keep making excuses for ourselves in order to
find the “right” person? Maybe the problems aren’t within our past
relationships, but within our own selves. Before hastiness erupts, ponder this:
What if relationships do not work out because we already have preconceived
ideas of what our relationships should look like? We already know what the
person should look like, how the person dresses, which kind of music he or she
likes, and we already know where our first date should take place. Are you
ready for the plot twist? What if we already have these images imprinted into
our minds because we have already experienced these relationships?
In reality, there is one relationship with which we remain
curious. “What could have been?” Aside from petty high school he-said-she-said
wordplay, maybe there was someone in high school, college, or even in the old
coffee shop on your way to work who struck your interest, but whom you did not
pursue. Or perhaps there was someone – now, hidden under the rug of forgotten
memories – many years ago.
