Maybe

Regardless of the situation, I believe each person we date brings a lesson into our lives. Maybe that’s the trick though; we believe what we wish to believe. If someone cheats on us, maybe we suggest it taught us how to be strong. If a relationship simply does not work out, maybe we suggest is taught us to look out for something better.

But what if we keep making excuses for ourselves in order to find the “right” person? Maybe the problems aren’t within our past relationships, but within our own selves. Before hastiness erupts, ponder this: What if relationships do not work out because we already have preconceived ideas of what our relationships should look like? We already know what the person should look like, how the person dresses, which kind of music he or she likes, and we already know where our first date should take place. Are you ready for the plot twist? What if we already have these images imprinted into our minds because we have already experienced these relationships?

In reality, there is one relationship with which we remain curious. “What could have been?” Aside from petty high school he-said-she-said wordplay, maybe there was someone in high school, college, or even in the old coffee shop on your way to work who struck your interest, but whom you did not pursue. Or perhaps there was someone – now, hidden under the rug of forgotten memories – many years ago.